There are many times that I struggle to be a bad/good person.
Frustration, I guess that is what make me wanting to be a bad person. "Bad" referring to being selfish, apathetic, discouraging people and spreading negative message. (Not being wild, slutty, taking drugs, etc....)
Ever since I am a kid, I have been taught that "One good deed deserves another", we call it 好心有好報 in chinese. I used to believes in that in a wrong way. I am not saying that that quote is wrong or rather I should say the one that taught me about this quote have yet to fully explain and demonstrate this quote to me. Apparently, I decoded the quote wrongly.
To me, doing good deeds meaning I must get something good in return. Whenever I help/do good and don't get anything in return, I would start thinking "This is so unfair, I helped!" I do give and always expecting to receive. Never stop tracking how much I am giving and receiving at the same time.
Well, this is not how it works if you (and myself also la) if we want to feel better after helping someone. If you do get frustrated like me, you are definitely not giving or helping sincerely.
The point is, if I dont want to get frustration after helping/doing something for someone, do it sincerely. Do it willingly and happily.
Don't do things that we don't feel like doing.
Don't do it just because it make us look like a "good person".
It is absolutely not a problem if we do not help someone that we hate. I think it is better to show the truth side of you than giving help to someone you hate so much and ruin it after that. Only help when you really want to that only consider as doing a good deed, not with a second thought.
Conclusion is,
There is no need to be a good or bad person. We just gotta do things follow our heart. I believe deep inside we all know what is wrong and right, what can be done and what not. (This sentence obviously cant be apply to psychos....)
Follow your heart but take your brain with you.
Alright, I know this care bear picture is so childish and totally ruining this article. I just wanna entertain you with some colorful image :P
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